Some people think of “being alone” as a bad thing. It either means you’re anti-social, or unwanted, neither of which is a good position to be in.
But actually, being alone isn’t’ necessarily a bad thing, as there are a handful of benefits that emerge once you learn to embrace solitude.
I’m not advocating you go all Tom Hanks in Cast Away because no one can argue the benefits, and the joys, that come along with fulfilling relationships with other people.
But I am saying that once you learn to enjoy being alone, you’re going to grow as a person.
Below are ten amazing things that will happen in your life when you start to enjoy being alone.
1. You’ll get to recharge. Often times when we’re surrounded by other people, we’re expending a lot of energy. Trying to keep others happy, make them laugh, soothe their egos, read their emotions, and all of the other rigors that come along with regular interaction.
2. You’ll reflect more often. Your life is always moving at a crazy fast pace. So fast in fact, that it’s probably rare when you have a moment alone to sit and reflect on your life.
3. You’ll get in touch with your own emotions. Again, when you’re surrounded by other people all the time, you’re constantly trying to read, and cater to, the other persons’ emotions. So much so, that you could end up losing touch with your own.
4. You’ll start doing things you actually enjoy. When you’re constantly in the company of other people, you’re always making compromises in order to find solutions that the entire group can enjoy. And unfortunately, the things you want most, may not always line up with what the group wants.
5. You’ll become more productive. Being in the company of other people can be fun and entertaining, but it can also seriously affect your productivity. There are times when the company of other people acts as nothing more than a distraction from getting your work done.
6. You’ll enjoy your relationships even more. When you spend time alone on a regular basis and eventually start to enjoy being alone, you’ll come to find that you also enjoy your relationships with other people even more.
7. You’ll feel more independent. Once you enjoy being alone, you’ll feel more confident in your ability to actually be alone. And that naturally leads to you feeling more independent.
8. You’ll get a break from constantly trying to keep other people happy. Life is filled with relationships, and most relationships only last when both people are kept happy. And that can turn into a draining job depending who that relationship is with. Now, this doesn’t only apply to personal relationships, but every kind of relationship.
9. You won’t have to apologize for anything. When you start to enjoy being alone, you’ll quickly see that solitude means you don’t have to keep apologizing for what you’ve done. So often, we do things that end up upsetting other people or hurting someone else’s feelings, and then have to quickly apologize for it.
10. You’ll stop looking for validation. So often we feel we the need to get the “OK” from our friends and family before we take action. We constantly look to other people for advice on what we should do next.
Of course, there are times where it’s not only perfectly acceptable to ask for advice but downright necessary. But there are also times where we’re perfectly capable of acting on our own, be we instead of looking to others for an answer.