Something that happens to almost every parent is children having temper tantrums and misbehaving, without them even recognizing the issue. Luckily, for you, here, we’re going to present you 5 errors that every parent makes and should stop making them right now!
If you don’t react to these little behaviors and actions in time, you will bring about certain repercussions in your children’s lives.
That was also confirmed by Mrs. Emma Jenner, a very famous woman known for her show on TLC “Take Home Nanny”. There, she revealed 5 errors parents make that sooner or later would suffer the consequences.
According to Emma, it is vital that parents start demanding more from their children or to expect more from them and involve them in their endeavors and difficulties. To give them less, in order to force them to get themselves going. To challenge them.
FIVE ERRORS PARENTS NOWADAYS REPEATEDLY MAKE:
#1 They use to take advantage of the shortcuts
According to Emma, parents today often use a series of shortcuts to prevent their children from getting bored and behaving badly. This is why they pack them with electronic devices whenever they are waiting for a medical appointment, boarding a plane, waiting for a bus, or just cooking and cleaning at their homes. You must teach your children to be patient.
They should learn how to amuse themselves on their own. They should also learn that food won’t be ready and served whenever they want it to be. Above all, you should teach them that they need to help in the kitchen, but not with actual cooking, but with doing the dishes. You also shouldn’t set off running like crazy because your child fell over. He or she will know how to get up on their own.
#2 Children come in the first place
We understand, by nature’s work, and thanks to it, we parents tend to look after our children too much. It’s good for evolution, I understand that and I defend it, says Emma, but we should also create a timetable adaptable to children’s needs, such as food, clothes, nursing, and others.
Nevertheless, parents nowadays are taking it to another level by subjecting their children to their own obligations and mental health, to satisfy all their needs and requests. You can not give them everything they want. Neither can you burst out running for everything they ask for? Remember that this will take your peace and your health away, it will stress you out, but above all, it will show your children they are the ones that are in control.
Remember that nothing will happen to your child simply just because you’ve taken some time for yourself (unless there’s an emergency of some kind), neither will anything happen if you say No.
#3 Making excuses (“That´s how children are”)
If you justify their misbehavior and outbursts in public by using this phrase, you’re motivating them to continue misbehaving and be irresponsible.
Children can do much more than their parents can expect. This goes for respect, manners, everyday domestic work, generosity, and self-control. Or maybe you think that a child can’t set the table by himself unless you order him to?
Of course, he can, what will happen if you have not taught him or you do not want him to learn how to do it. It’s that simple. Raise the expectations you have for your children, that way you’ll teach them how to behave properly said Emma.
#4 You’re afraid of your children
For example, if a child wants to drink milk a different cup, and not their usual one, parents immediately look for another cup instead of ignoring their request. They do so out of fear that the child will cry or refuse to eat.
For Emma, this is a huge mistake. Why are you afraid? Who is your child to be in command of both of you? You have to let them cry if they want to, and go somewhere else if you do not want to hear it. But never raise your children indulging every single one of their wishes along the way. Above all, think about what message you´re sending them when you give them all they want just because they are crying. Are you going to do something about it?
#5 You don’ let others scold them
This is very bad. Back in the day, teachers and professors could scold our children when they behaved improperly.
They were our eyes and ears when the children were out of our sight. Nowadays this is almost impossible, given the fact that, if a teacher or an employee gives a piece of their mind to a child, parents tend to get mad; they don´t even try to find out what happened to cause this kind of a reaction from a superior. If you act like this, you’re basically telling your children to misbehave and that neither you, nor the teacher, or the employee would do anything to stop them.
This will help them become stronger. Try not to make these 5 errors and be a better parent for your children!