Below is a list of the main clues which point towards your partner being psychologically manipulative towards you:
1. You no longer enjoy things you once used to
It’s not only people you begin to distance yourself from, hobbies and activities you normally enjoy doing are also pushed to the side. People end up losing their passion for the things they once loved doing the most.
Between the guilt, sadness, and confusion that manipulators cause their partner to feel, it’s easy to get bogged down and lose interest in the things you usually enjoy.
Don’t lose sight of your zest for life because of a manipulator, make it a point to jump back into old hobbies if you find yourself being pulled away from them.
2. You are always wrong and rarely ever right
Manipulators will always fight to have the upper hand in a relationship and to them that means always being correct. Even if they know they are flat out wrong or mistaken about something that can easily be disproved, they will stick to their guns and argue until you finally back down.
3. You no longer trust anyone
After so much mental and emotional manipulation there comes a point where you stop trusting other people. It’s like you’ve grown to expect lies and deceit from everyone around you because that’s all you ever get from your partner.
If you feel alienated and unable to confide in old friends or family members, that’s as big a red flag as you can expect to find. It’s time for you to move on and distance yourself from the cause of all your distrust, aka your manipulative partner.
4. You feel unhappy and not like your normal self
When you lose sight of who you are because of your relationship, you end up feeling terrible and lost. Any changes in someone’s personality for the worse are never good, but when it’s caused by teasing and humiliation at the hands of your partner, it can quickly spiral out of control.
Manipulators do not care about your hopes, dreams, wishes, or desires. They will not help you reach any goals and may actually try to get in the way to make you fail. You’re left feeling all alone and unsupported, which makes you depressed and miserable. If that sounds familiar, you need to seek help before you sink any deeper.
5. You tell them everything but get nothing in return
Manipulators will dig and dig at you until you reveal everything to them, even your deepest, most darkest secrets that you never tell anyone. However, they will not tell you their secrets, nor will they keep what you tell them solely between the two of you.
Rather, they use them as pawns and will tell whomever they choose when it works out best in their favor. Usually this means that things are revealed in such a way that’s calculated to hurt and embarrass you as well.
6. Your other relationships are disappearing or in bad shape
If you find yourself being cut off or pushed away from your friends and family because your partner disapproves of them, they’re alienating you from loved ones. Manipulators need to be in control and they want to be the ones who ultimately decide who you can and cannot see.
They will try to tell you how long you can visit for and make you feel guilty when you spend time with others. However, if your partner truly loved and respected you, they would not force you to give up friendships or cut you off from important people in your life.
7. You’ve become emotionally unstable
If your partner makes you feel guilty all of the time and no matter what you do or say they make you question everything, it’s enough to drive anyone crazy. Constant guilt is a heavy burden to carry around and leads to self-hate.
You begin to devalue your worth and that in turn leads to depression, more stress and anxiety, and emotional turmoil. Only once you escape the manipulation and cycle of guilt can you begin to clear your head and become emotionally stable.