It’s happened to all of us—one day, you’re laughing with your best friend at lunchtime, making plans for the weekend and having a grand old time. The next day, you’re total strangers. That, my friends, is called a “friend breakup,” and they’re awful. Sometimes (most of the time…okay, all the time), they’re even worse than a romantic breakup.
Let me explain.
Your best friend is the person you turn to for everything. They know your shirt size, what day and time you’re going to get your period, how messed up your family is and what you had for dinner two years ago at that one restaurant you always went to together. Your best friend is like a sibling. You’re inseparable, yet, if you’re separated, you reunite as if a second hasn’t passed since the last time you’ve seen each other. Your best friend is the one you send screenshots to of the stupid texts your significant other sends you because they have your best interest in mind. When you find a best friend, you become so close that you don’t see an end to your friendship.
Your significant other, while they may be special and close to you, can never compete with your best friend. They might never find out about your secret obsession with the Kardashians, and they might not give into binge-watching them like your best friend would. Your significant other might not understand your obsession with old Simon and Garfunkel records.
Your best friend is your constant. Relationships come and go, and your best friend was there through all of them.
When they’re not there anymore, it hurts. It hurts knowing you can no longer text your best friend when things are going wrong. It hurts knowing you can’t bond over your inside jokes anymore. Reliving the good times and bad times with your best friend hurts. Looking at photographs of the two of you together cuts like a knife. Seeing them find a new best friend kills you.
Romantic breakups suck, too. Any close bond being broken is awful, but the relationship you have with your best friend is unlike any other relationship or friendship. That’s what makes a friend breakup feel so much worse.